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We have all been in some pretty bad places in life. Everyone has experienced
situations that we never think we will recover from. Marriages can be tested - but bear in mind:
It gets better.
I
know that sounds totally cliché. It sounds like something a complete pacifist
would say. But hey, it’s the truth. I may sound naïve, inexperienced,
wishy-washy, and whatnot but I have seen things get better with patience. There
is definitely a silver lining in what you’re going through right now, maybe you
just haven’t seen it yet. Here’s to give you a little bit of inspiration: https://thoughtcatalog.com/leena-sanders/2018/12/this-is-your-reminder-that-everything-will-get-better/.
So,
let’s talk about divorce.
There
are typically two driving forces behind every couple’s decision to file for
divorce:
- It is something they want.
- It is something they need.
Sometimes,
it can also be a little bit of both. When a divorce is something you want, there are often other
personalities involved. You and your partner may have fallen out of love and
have mutually agreed to seek for greener pastures elsewhere. It can also be a
one-sided affair wherein you or your partner have sparked a newfound
relationship with someone else and would rather clean the slate rather than
keep on pretending that the marriage is still working when in fact, it’s not.
If you’re stuck in a loveless marriage like this, you may want to consider
filing for a divorce too rather than continue on a relationship built on lies
and (possibly) infidelity.
On
the other hand, a notion for divorce may have been raised because it is what
the couple (or a part of the couple) needs. If abuse, disrespect, and violence
are in play, then cutting the thread lose definitely becomes a necessity (read more). Becoming a martyr in the name of love and having
your partner abuse your rights as a person is simply not worth it – not even if
it’s for the sake of the children. If it comes down to this, making the call to
severe your marital bond may be the best option to take. After all, you
wouldn’t want your abusive relationship to be accepted as a norm by your children.
For their sake and yours, freeing yourself from this kind of marriage is a
choice you can make.
Then
again, there are times when the couple neither wants nor needs to file a
divorce. They obviously care for each other; they transparently show respect
for one another. However, circumstances have simply led them to think that
they’re in a bad situation. It could be misunderstandings, petty arguments, or
groundless accusations. Regardless of what the source of distress is, both
parties are obviously reluctant to cut ties but are too prideful to make amends
as well.
If
you are either number 1 or 2 and you really think that your marriage has gone
out the window and it’s too late for salvation, then by all means – check out
divorce resources online. In fact, here’s a helpful article about the online divorce system to check out. However, if you belong to the
third group, one that neither wants nor needs the divorce, then maybe you
should just ease on your pride a little bit. Talk it out with your partner. All
too often, an effective two-way communication is all it takes to resolve the
worst of problems. We’re just so busy we don’t even want to bother with it.
Divorce
is a heavy decision to make. No matter how many times you’ve tied the knot
already. To admit defeat and to take back your vows can be a lot to swallow.
Luckily, you’re not alone in this ordeal. Aside from your friends and family
who are willing to show their utmost support to you, there are also legal
professionals that can help you get through the process systematically and
peacefully. So, rest your heart.
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